I have a question...maybe I have overlooked something obvious, but I need to ask it anyways even though I doubt I will ever get an answer that will help as such.
Why do people assume if you give them a gift or you do something for them that something is wanted in return? I really hate that. I like getting things for my friends and family, or sorting things out for them if I can and I'm always asked "so what do you want?" or "how much do I owe you?"
I do things for people because I can and because it helps or is a pleasant surprise, it's that simple. I do not expect anything...well maybe a thankyou, but that's enough for me....I'm not one of those people who does something for people so I get something in return (although it is sweet when they do, but I do not expect it).
Ah well, maybe it is just the way of the World these days...
THAT is a good question, which could be also asked the other way around:
ReplyDeleteWHY do most people, who give you something without asking (material OR immaterial ;), expect something in return?!?
I had this with a friend at Christmas time. She was invited for dinner and it was clear that we wouldn't change gifts or anything BUT the joy of being together. Unfortunately that wasn't HER "Christmas spirit".
That was the last time we EVER saw or heard each other. And that was a so called "good friend" :(
Unfortunately I too have no answer to that question.
I also love to give but don't and wouldn't expect anything in return. Well, in most cases anyway *lol*
But as you said, maybe that's just the way it is nowadays and we are just two "dinos"! *rofl*
Of course do I also ask "what can I do for you" or maybe "what would you like", if someone has helped me in some way. I also think that is just the "courteous" BUT if he say "nothing, just a thanks", that's fine with me and I just think of that person the next time HE might need help... ;)
You have a point, so many people do things to get stuff in return these days, so sadly I guess other get suspicious about the likes of me and you becsue of these other individuals.
ReplyDeleteYou are also right about it being courtesy, but it sometimes feels that people almost feel obliged that they have to do something in return, which is rather sad these days.
Sorry to hear about that "friend", no much I can say to that really...